Avi Love
Coach & Facilitator
Alignment Coaching
My Approach
I coach individuals and couples in finding alignment with themselves and each other. My approach is making space to bring forth your own innate wisdom with love and care. I believe that my work is rooted in being a better mirror. Your household mirror reflects the way you currently see yourself. I'm here to reflect the love and intelligence of all parts of you, including those that may be feeling dismissed or rejected.
"Avi Love brings profound wisdom and clarity, quickly uncovering root issues with an intuitive grasp of human psychology. Choosing to work with them is a meaningful step toward prioritizing empowerment and growth in your journey." -Bella
Individual Alignment
I coach individuals in alignment for well-being, work, and relationships. Alignment means meeting yourself in this moment without believing that anything about you needs to be fixed, changed, managed, or controlled. You don't need to match a vision of how you thought things would be at this juncture of your life. You're exactly who you're supposed to be. When you're in alignment, words and actions feel like they flow with ease from a balanced, centered place. The mind is engaged and curious. The heart feels open and loving. Digestion happens at a relaxed, unobstructed pace. The body feels cared for and listened to. You easily set boundaries without feeling the need to withdraw love. You have a clear sense of inner authority, and your creative spark feels playful and generative.
Signs You Might Be Out of Alignment
Your work feels draining and unfulfilling.
Projects and activities that feel personally meaningful keep getting procrastinated or pushed to the backburner.
Personal connections and community feel like they don't see or know the real you.
Your body is sending signals (headaches, poor digestion, fatigue, strain, etc) without medical explanation.
You spend a lot of time ruminating on past experiences that feel negative or shameful.
You often feel bored or stuck.
You experience persistent feelings of anger, grief, anxiety, or other emotions that don't flow and change with present experience.
"I just wanted to let you know how much of an impact your session had on me. When you asked me when the last time was I put myself first it really hit me - I was constantly putting myself (and my body) last. So, 3 weeks ago I joined an online fitness challenge for over 40s, I'm exercising regularly, eating a gut-friendly super healthy anti-inflammatory diet and feeling soooooo much better in myself and about myself. I just wanted to you to know your words (and wisdom) really shifted my mindset and made this possible." -Natalie
Relational Alignment
I coach couples, polycules, friends, family, and partners of all kinds into aligned connection. I also mediate ongoing conflict into opportunities for deeper growth and connection. Relational alignment is built from the same fundamental principles as individual alignment. No one needs to be fixed, changed, managed, or controlled. Nothing in the relationship needs to be matched to a vision of how you thought things would be at this point in your relationship. Relationships of all kinds get stuck in patterns of fixing and protecting, just like individuals. This is what leads to disconnection where everyone involved is trying to fix the relationship rather than being present in it. Relationships in alignment are welcoming of everyone's truth and full selves. Once alignment is restored, old hurts have space to unwind. New visions of the future emerge. You meet the moment with a renewed sense of love, listening, and enjoying each other.
Signs Your Relationship Might Be Out of Alignment
Connection feels stale and unfulfilling.
Needs and wants are chronically unmet.
Time spent together is not enjoyable or pleasurable.
For sexual relationships, sex lacks deep connection and bonding.
Feeling like you keep having the same fights and arguments.
You don't feel seen or heard in dialogue.
Your contributions to your connection feel unrecognized.
You feel like the other person needs to change.
You struggle to set boundaries and have difficult conversations.
"Avi's expertise lies in not simply listening, but listening for what is in the way of self-realisation, joy, pleasure, and love. The way she notices and offers alternatives to habits of unproductive thinking and fear-based decisions in life is clear, playful, and enticing." -Ro
Who I Am
As a queer nonbinary woman (she/they) myself, I understand identity journeys. I've explored the full range of relationship styles and learned to deeply trust myself and my connections. I've worked through attachment traumas, messy learned family behaviors, and reached a place of deep inner safety and joy.I ran San Francisco's most attended sexuality space for 3 years with a core team of experts in connection and sexuality, I've facilitated hundreds of events where I've held thousands of individuals in wide ranging stages of exploration, and I've developed and taught advanced workshops on gender identity, sexuality, kink, and relationship styles.In my artistic journey, my creative teachers have included:
-Writers for NYT, New Yorker, Broad City, hit Netflix shows, and bestselling authors
-Pixar and Disney animators
-National Geographic photographers
-Improvisation at Upright Citizens Brigade and Groundlings
-Improvisational piano with one of the last remaining silent film organists
-Embodied voice training with coaches for Broadway and Grammy winnersI've also done significant work supporting programs in restorative justice, harm reduction, mental health, and unhoused assistance.
Appearances
Generalist World Podcast - May 2026
Contact
If you feel called to coaching with me, reach out here to schedule a free hour-long exploratory initial session.To inquire about booking me for facilitation and events, please also use the form below.Stay in touch: Subscribe to my Substack for writing, workshops, and announcements.
Thank you
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